The new year begins tomorrow....and I am just taking a few quiet moments to think about how I'd like it to look for our family, and for me personally. But, that requires me to first remember how this past year was. In a word, this year was full of CHANGES. From January 1st to December 31st, our family did the following:
1. Completed 2 permanent residence visa processes, which included tons of paperwork, money, and traveling to Nairobi by 12 hour bus rides (and back) TWICE.
2. Sold our house in Uganda, and bought another piece of land with the money.
3. Completed a hell-ish adoption process through the Ugandan court, including firing and re-hiring a new lawyer, meeting a never-before-met family, countless papers, money, conversations, court dates, and visits to various government offices.
4. Experienced a MIRACLE at the US Embassy regarding the final visa to come to the US in the VERY LAST MOMENT.
5. Moved our family of 4 to the US....including packing up/selling/giving away things from an apartment and a house, traveling 20+ hours on 2 flights, with 2 tweens, while pregnant, with 9 bags, multiple bag checks, and a 4 hour drive...then waiting 3 weeks for Grace to come.
6. Had a baby, which included feeling sick nearly every single day of pregnancy, high blood pressure concerns, 19 hours of labor, back labor, waiting 3 hours for an epidural, and culminating in a C-section.
7. Experienced 2 heartbreaking deaths in our family, including Grace flying back to Uganda 2 weeks after Hannah was born.
8. Got 3 family members into US schools, which included immunizations, paperwork, drivers licenses, social security cards, language testing, meetings, financial aid, and class registrations.
9. Got a job (Grace) or changed logistics of jobs (Tara and Grace)...which included Grace getting driver's license (a process, for sure), going on interviews, quitting a job, then accepting another, Tara learning to work from home with a baby, starting sewing classes, registering a new business together, doing a christmas market, and making custom garments for people.
10. Managed to meet most of the friends/family who had previously not met my husband and children, which included a family trip to PA with a 6 week old baby and 100 degree weather, and a side trip to NYC!!!
11. And, finally, we managed, despite all the changes and stress, to actually still love (and like) eachother at the end of this year. And, we all still have jobs, are generally happy, now have health insurance, and made good grades in school.
Truly AMAZING. When I list it out and see all that we have done, even without the little daily things that we take for granted (learning to shop at the grocery, use an ATM, finding a church, christmas shopping, babysitters, going on dates, attending school and sports activities, birthday parties, navigating paperwork for insurance, paying off debt, etc), I am baffled at how it all happened. But, i do know that my mantra of "one step at a time" was key.
This year, the word I am hoping for is SETTLING. I want our family to find routine, enjoy ourselves, pay off our debt, build our savings, nest into our home (wherever that ends up being), continue to do well in school, succeed at our jobs, do some creative projects, spend time with loved ones, be content, and bond as a family. These things seem nominal, but sound so good to my soul. We do hope to get Hannah over to Uganda this summer with Grace and I (or at least one of us). We also will attend a close friend's wedding, and go on vacation with my family. But, besides that, we will work to create normalcy, reduce stress, and "do our thing". I will continue my mantra, "one day at a time"....
1. Completed 2 permanent residence visa processes, which included tons of paperwork, money, and traveling to Nairobi by 12 hour bus rides (and back) TWICE.
2. Sold our house in Uganda, and bought another piece of land with the money.
3. Completed a hell-ish adoption process through the Ugandan court, including firing and re-hiring a new lawyer, meeting a never-before-met family, countless papers, money, conversations, court dates, and visits to various government offices.
4. Experienced a MIRACLE at the US Embassy regarding the final visa to come to the US in the VERY LAST MOMENT.
5. Moved our family of 4 to the US....including packing up/selling/giving away things from an apartment and a house, traveling 20+ hours on 2 flights, with 2 tweens, while pregnant, with 9 bags, multiple bag checks, and a 4 hour drive...then waiting 3 weeks for Grace to come.
6. Had a baby, which included feeling sick nearly every single day of pregnancy, high blood pressure concerns, 19 hours of labor, back labor, waiting 3 hours for an epidural, and culminating in a C-section.
7. Experienced 2 heartbreaking deaths in our family, including Grace flying back to Uganda 2 weeks after Hannah was born.
8. Got 3 family members into US schools, which included immunizations, paperwork, drivers licenses, social security cards, language testing, meetings, financial aid, and class registrations.
9. Got a job (Grace) or changed logistics of jobs (Tara and Grace)...which included Grace getting driver's license (a process, for sure), going on interviews, quitting a job, then accepting another, Tara learning to work from home with a baby, starting sewing classes, registering a new business together, doing a christmas market, and making custom garments for people.
10. Managed to meet most of the friends/family who had previously not met my husband and children, which included a family trip to PA with a 6 week old baby and 100 degree weather, and a side trip to NYC!!!
11. And, finally, we managed, despite all the changes and stress, to actually still love (and like) eachother at the end of this year. And, we all still have jobs, are generally happy, now have health insurance, and made good grades in school.
Truly AMAZING. When I list it out and see all that we have done, even without the little daily things that we take for granted (learning to shop at the grocery, use an ATM, finding a church, christmas shopping, babysitters, going on dates, attending school and sports activities, birthday parties, navigating paperwork for insurance, paying off debt, etc), I am baffled at how it all happened. But, i do know that my mantra of "one step at a time" was key.
This year, the word I am hoping for is SETTLING. I want our family to find routine, enjoy ourselves, pay off our debt, build our savings, nest into our home (wherever that ends up being), continue to do well in school, succeed at our jobs, do some creative projects, spend time with loved ones, be content, and bond as a family. These things seem nominal, but sound so good to my soul. We do hope to get Hannah over to Uganda this summer with Grace and I (or at least one of us). We also will attend a close friend's wedding, and go on vacation with my family. But, besides that, we will work to create normalcy, reduce stress, and "do our thing". I will continue my mantra, "one day at a time"....